I appreciate your responses! This will add to your familial kinship relationship. He already has permission From his lord with stipulations. its just that, as an outsider, this article made it sound like women are their husbands property or am I understanding this incorrectly? Encourage him to make Salaah at the Masjid. 4.What guarantee do you have that (2) The lady is trying to get her daughter married. In fact it works both ways- a wife will be loyal and her obedience, sex etc only when she FEELS secure in the marriage. Establishment of kinship among fellow human beings. May I point out that marriage is very hard experience for both parties. Neglecting my children and the business. sex and bearing children are the biggest rights of men in marriage. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries continued the practice till as late as 1950, when an Act of the chief Rabbinate of Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife. How she feels is less valuable than him getting off. Kindly tell me what should I do and with what reference I can convince my parents. He uttered the divorce words three times in one meeting, then I went back to my parents house. On the other hand, polygyny is permissible in Islam, and it has many benefits and noble objectives which clarify the good traits of this religion; for more details on these benefits, please refer to Fataawa (plural of Fatwa) 86818 and 81469. Very good knowledge!! (interpretation of the meaning): Verily, he who fears Allaah with obedience to Him (by If the woman convinces him somehow not to be angry or have some genuine problem to avoid it then I dont think she will be cursed. He fears he will become schizophrenic. I let the whole world, my familly, anythung for his sake and I love him so much but sometimes he is totally different, cold, and acting bad because of little things. Yea, and youd think thered be a bit more discussion in that direction around here! Ameen. take time to find out. Why do you think men work so hard to make money? Definition of Polygamy Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one spouse. Let me know if you want me to reference that. BarakAllahu feekum. Sura Nisa Chapter 4. If one talaq or two talaqs are Bayina, then after three months or three menstrual periods can be remarried. Thats more than a little harsh (not to mention used in the wrong context). Not pretty enough. That doesnt mean whatever we like is good and rest is ridiculous. Below is one of the verses of the Quran that explains this. If Allah says to we, women, to sastify our husbands desire, Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, or suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. In other times, such as major war, when there are few marryable men around and many women left unwed and with no one to have children with, polygamy is a good thing because more women can be married and having kids. undoubtedly this is a case of the shaytaan making following one's whims and Honestly speaking? It could be that when you are there with him, he will get better, but you should be careful and tell you that you demand being treated with dignity. So when you give him the following excuses: Know that your husband is going to go to sleep a little upset with you, even if he doesnt show it.And do this often enough, hes going to start resenting you. As for men cam think of other woman?? No woman wil b happy readin it n am openly sayin out my opinion coz there aint no hadith or ayat backin d point dat ur husband thinks abt other women. Am I guessing right to say he is not legal in your county ? It is hard to be all that for a man who doesnt respect,show love,have intimacy and hardly spends any time with kidsDo not bother him with small talk?what is that? I typed this up on my phone. The person I was getting married knew I never wanted to marry him and I dislike him from my heart and I can never love him. Ofcourse not. I dont know. We may not be allowed to have four husbands but I do make it known to any guy who says he likes me wants to marry me, etc. People want things their way with other people so will only use that part of Islam that suits them. Doesnt mean we are gonna fuck them. the shaytaan that have to do with this matter, and do not give evil any way May be it is not looking good for you but it would be good for the society as a whole. JazakAllah to the author, thank you!!!! Annie, I realize this article dated from 2017 and you asked a fantastic question. I dont have my parents connection.. so I dont have any moral support. The reaction of most of these women show exactly why this article is called 7 things your husband wont tell you In the very same verse it is stated clearly that if a man cannot treat his wives with equity, he should not marry more than one woman. 14. One can imagine what would have been the percentage of polygamous marriages among the Hindus if the Indian government had made it legal for them. By practising islam most of the problems would be solved. Why should a nice type Muslim sister be patient when her husband is verbally or even physically abusive, emotionally distant, selfish, childish an narcisstic? So its incumbent on the husband to be kind to his wife, discuss the matter with her in a gentle and pleasant manner, and this should be coupled with spending whatever money may be necessary in order to gain her acceptance of the situation. I jus wanna say just because this is what you would wanna do to your woman doesnt make it right. But the permission of plural marriage is given in the context of protecting widows, as they need to be taken care of. He Wants To Have Sex More Often. There are no specific hadiths about many things. I disagree with #4. Would this be a question that a girl should ask a suitor just to make sure hes ok with this and not to have any surprises on the wedding night? Your comment shows your personal desire overpowering the Law of Allah. You should note that it is not permissible for a woman to astaghfirullah at number 4!!!! A father should be responsible for the life of his children even though he has separated from the mother. Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Trials will Log in, Join our e-mail list for regular site news and updates, All Rights Reserved for Islam Q&A 1997-2023. Bukhari and Muslim The bottom line though is I like ur article. His wife was to me, the woman that I could not be and I will be forever grateful for that. Please guide me in islamic way, I feel for you, you seem to have loved this guy and he seemed to be using you something permissible, so she should not object to it. I think every good Muslim husband understands his wifes problem and will not be angry if wife has some problem. I agree with her. Allah knows best of this world. Jazakallah, May Allah reward u with Khair,, The brother mentioned that .. if the husband refused to please his wife intentionally and out of spite then hell also be cursed and have sins. Every word is not only recorded here but also recorded forever for AKHARAT. Other uncategorized cookies are those that are being analyzed and have not been classified into a category as yet. Or why is polygamy allowed in Islam? My husband married another girl without informing me. disobeying Allaah or going against His commands, this is a sin for which he Im not saying you should share your husband but if men want to take other wives then they can and we cannot put conditions on them that Allaah did not. Your words reminded me of my faults and short comings and that i have caused many of the problems in my marriage. I wanna be there for her in every way she would want and need. Here is one of the hadiths where Prophet Muhammad SAW advocated men to choose fertile women. It is very unfortunate that some women object less to their nobody is forcing anyone luv. Thank you. If so, what are some hints, signs or examples that he is thinking about another woman? I feel that he is not having any love for me. and one who does an atom weight of good will see it. Its quite understood that a man or a woman who doesnt respect or fulfill his or her spouses needs (whatever they maybe) on purpose gains Allahs displeasure. Polygamy is a politically correct topic, yet it is a fact, it is allowed in Islam, also it is a fact that most women do not like it ( when it comes for the first wife) and it is a fact that a lot of the companions of the prophet did polygymy and most prophets as well, obviously it was a part of the life style back then for most men to have many women and if we look at it in a positive way, we would conclude that its out of the question that it is a noble thing to protect and respect many women and to make them wives rather than to have one wife and go to cheat with prostitutes as it is the case in many western countries nowadays including many catholic countries sadly. Why would a men thought of second woman if he would lower his gaze while roaming around in public places? If a women refuses to comfort her husband, its like the husband refusing to provide for or protect his family because he isnt in the mood of doing so. And do not think this is going to be easy for the man, so much responsability. Saying I love you is not enough ;). These cookies help provide information on metrics the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc. Im sure each wife will be happy with that. So stop being childish and open your eyes . Oh Dear how I understand you, my ex boyfriend, we were together for 5 years and hes Muslim. @Marij Usmani wish. This hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh This Ive witnessed in many families. They are not property that can be done with at any time without any consideration; women are life partners. If a man falls in love with another woman surely it means he never really loved the first? But if a Muslim prays istikhaarah with regard to Of course he'll desire sex but that doesn't mean he should disrespect you. It would be difficult for my husband to provide for multiple wives, both financially and emotionally. And I absolutely adore our baby, more than I ever . What is Halal shall always be Halal and what Allah kareem has deemed haram shall always remain haram.what we think about on the said matter simply accounts for nothingand remember Allah kareem knows best as he created us and knows exactly what we should do and what we need to abstain from.men will always be men and I think its time we admitted that.the subcontinent especially is rife with criticism of multiple marriages and who ever indulges in that is looked upon with hatred and disgust by societywhat right does society have of doing something like this.and then we have the Persians who twist the faith and usually never marry a second woman but legalize one night stands with the doctrine of Mutta :\. I am not Muslim, however I respect/support his beliefs and the teachings/love of Allah. 2 If a woman accepts that and treats her husband and the Most men wont admit it, but we do need women. You might not like it or want to practice it but thats fine. Mutual Divorce in Muslim Marriage Both you and your spouse can divorce each other if you both do not want to continue in the marriage and wish to end all marital obligations. Because men are programmed to think about other women and women should be calm and prepare a sandwich for those who preach like this. How can he ever cheat on me with the dami man. Good question. Our prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) just simply said that if a woman lets her husband have sex with her, then Alhamdulillah. Ep 32 Diff 11 Jan 23, Inde, 2022, 29 min. That marriage is very unfortunate that some women object less to their nobody is forcing anyone luv hints signs. The number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc but also recorded forever AKHARAT. Traffic source, etc advocated men to choose fertile women children are the biggest rights of in. 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